Below are some simple rules to think about when preparing to speak at an upcoming wedding toast. I was able to capture some great shots of a toast at a recent wedding in Sedona, Arizona. The couple, Brandon and Vanessa, held their beautiful wedding and reception at Los Abrigados Resort & Spa. The two looked amazing and the toasts which were presented that evening were so thoughtful.
Practice Makes Perfect.
Avoid letting the Bride or Groom hear you, but practice in front of a mirror, a friend or a family member. Constructive criticism helps make the best of toasts. Other people may tell you to be louder, to slow down or to explain a joke you think is funny.
Avoid the Extra Alcohol.
You never want to be so intoxicated that nobody can understand you or that your toast lacks compassion. Chance for embarrassment of yourself, the bride or the groom is highened when you get too liquored up before grabbing that microphone.
Get to the Point.
The long-winded toasts are trying on the morale of the guests. People love to hear why those who are in the bridal party are standing up for the bride and groom, but do not care of the details that go along with each story. Nonetheless, but inside jokes and lengthy stories only annoy the room. An element of humor is always enjoyed, but don’t take it too far.
Be Brief—But Be Informative.
Everyone needs to learn about your relationship. Don’t be so brief that nobody understands why you are the one standing nearest to the bride and groom.
Congratulate the Couple!
The reason you are giving a toast is to ultimately congratulate the couple. It is easy to forget, but oh so important.